We all lead such busy and stressful lives. Almost every day we come into contact with people who ‘push our buttons’. Day to day events or situations can also bring up anger, fear, resentment and frustration. Even members of our family can cause all sorts of emotions to bubble and brew.
Many of us were taught we shouldn’t show anger or that it was wrong to fight back. Instead we were told platitudes like ‘Two wrongs don’t make a right’ or ‘It is better to turn the other cheek’. Although there is some truth to these statements, this doesn’t help us on an energetic or physical level, as we squash down our emotions, smother those feelings and try to pretend we are unaffected by what is going on around us.
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Guilt, is a driving force that is as common as love and as damaging as hate. It is more insidious, more difficult to escape and more persistently destructive then lust, ambition, ego or vanity. Most of us suffer from it some of the time; some of us suffer from it, all of the time. The truth is, the more you care about others and the more sensitive and considerate you are, the more likely you will be to suffer from guilt. It is believed that guilt itself, is not a ‘real’ emotion. It is more a sense of self judgement; that comes from knowing or feeling that you have done something wrong. The emotional aspect that affects us I believe, is the feelings of pain, remorse and regret that guilt elicits from us.
We tend to think of guilt in very stark terms of black and white. We know that we feel guilty when we do something that we know is wrong.
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The body as a whole is an excellent source of dream imagery. Particularly given the number of body related metaphors in daily use. In general the head and its features are related to spiritual or intellectual matters; whereas dreams of the torso and limbs are to do with physical concerns or instincts. The heart, is the traditional centre of our emotional lives and actual source of our life force. Phrases such as ‘broken-hearted’ or ‘the heart of the matter’ may feature in dreams, but it often represents love. Either yours or the love for someone else or the love that surrounds you.
Blood is a very powerful dream symbol. It represents the life force within everyone, literally the life blood of the human race. To dream about blood is connected to our physical and mental strength or general health. If you dream you are bleeding, you may be concerned about a loss of morale, will power and physical strength. The dream is probably only telling you what you already are aware of; But, it is strange how we often ignore the detrimental affects that our lifestyles and relationships have upon us in waking time. But when we dream about it in such a literal way, seeing ourselves being drained of our life force, our life blood, it can often be the wake up call we need to do something about it!
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Dealing with the death of a loved one is by far one of the hardest things you will ever have to live with. Losing a parent, spouse, sibling or even children can be devastatingly painful. Many of us understand that dying in itself is a natural part of life, yet we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, which sometimes lead to bouts of sadness or depression. With time, the intense feeling of sadness typically diminishes. However, the important thing to note is that grieving is an important process in order to overcome your loss. You can start by focusing on the wonderful experiences you had with your loved one.
Everyone reacts differently when it comes to coping with the death of a loved one. Some prefer support groups while others chose to seek out metaphysical avenues such as physics and or mediums to try and connect with their loved ones on the other side. The good thing is that you have many options to help you through the death and dying stages. It may take quite a few months or even years to come to terms with losing a loved one. There is no “standard” time for someone to grieve. Don’t expect to pass through the phases quickly, it takes time especially if you had a difficult relationship with the deceased.
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You must let go of anger, for it serves you no good. It is impossible to find happiness while you are led by uncontrollable urges, you will be led astray. Emotions can often cloud the mind and leave you feeling lost, you hit out in the only way you know, attempting to gain control, but this just starts a vicious cycle of hatred towards that which displeases you.
You cannot win while you are being controlled by your emotions, they are like the waves in the sea, sometimes calm, yet it only takes a gust of wind, or a change of circumstances, to make the sea rough and your life chaotic. You must learn to ride the ups and downs of life, just as you learned to ride your first bicycle. At first you fell off your bike a few times, until you learned to find balance, you must do just the same, you need to find balance, so that your emotions do not topple you over.
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This time of the year the tides are high and the sea’s stormy and wild. As I watched the huge swells breaking against the shore line and the mad froth of the waves as they crashed against each other, I reflected, how often life is like that too.
The sea being symbolic of the emotional roller-coaster ride that we human beings often find ourselves caught up in. This thought then took me to consider the fact that only a few feet below the surface of the sea, things can be very different. Below, the sea is calm, an aquatic world that is totally unaffected by the mayhem raging above.