Have you shackled yourself to the past and made yourself a prisoner of your future karma? If you are harbouring anger, grudges, jealousy, vengeance, and housing hate in your heart; then the answer is a resounding Yes! Do not despair, however, because you have the key to free yourself of the karma that keeps you chained to the person or thing you despise- the key to your freedom is forgiveness.
Yes, Forgiveness! It is the only key in fact. Twenty years in an ashram chanting mantras, will not free you as long as you cling to the negative emotions that weigh so heavily on your soul.
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Life often presents us with personal and professional challenges, particularly within our personal relationships, professional and working lives. It is said, that the true test of a persons character comes, when faced with adversity in all its many different forms; And that it is those of us who manage to stand strong and steadfast, not running away from what is difficult that are the strongest and most successful of all.
But, is staying in a situation come what may, always the right thing to do? Can there be instances, where the most sensible course of action would be to walk away? Take the example of the business man who has done everything in his power to make a success of his company. Re-mortgaged his home and taken on too many expensive loans. There comes a point when an individual has to accept that in spite of their best efforts, they are not going to be able to save their business. But find it very difficult to make the decision to cut their losses and start afresh. There can be many reasons for this. Loss of prestige, fear of looking a failure to family and friends, or simply that they are unable to face up to the reality of the situation. If only they could see that it takes more courage and strength of character to start again, then it does to hang on to something long after it has ceased to be viable.
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As human beings we are capable of great depth of feeling. When we trust, we do it implicitly. When we love, we do so wholeheartedly. The paradox is, that this quality we have is at the same time, one of our greatest strengths and also our biggest weakness. For never are we so vulnerable and exposed as we are in that moment. There is no greater betrayal then that of trust. Whether it be in our personal relationships, or in our dealings with people in general. The repercussions can be endless and its affects felt long after the deed has been done. Losing faith in other people can be hard, but even worse is when individuals lose faith in themselves. Often they will blame themselves, for not seeing what was happening, or of being too trusting.
People who were once open and trusting, become the complete opposite. Fearful of forming new relationships. Distant with new people, keeping them at arms length. Afraid of starting new enterprises and less willing to take creative risks. When we lose our faith in people and become distrustful. We erect barriers around ourselves, thinking that this is the only way to stay safe and free from pain. But this can be a very lonely world to live in and I think it is important to remember, that for a long time, we lived, loved and had great friendships and relationships, where trust was not an issue. That we should not let one or two bad experiences, change who we are and our view of life. The fact is, not everyone we meet is going to hurt or lie to us.
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