It is often said that there is strength in numbers, many souls standing together in unity. This same analogy could be used with regard to ourselves. By bringing your internal self together, into balance and harmony.
When someone experiences conflict within themselves, the results can be disastrous. For a clouded mind cannot see clearly, emotions unrestrained like a riderless horse, galloping ahead without thought or consequence.
You must learn to see hardship differently. As they say you cannot make an omelet without breaking a few eggs. So what makes you think that you will become wise unless you pass through the trials and tribulations of life.
You might not care for becoming wise, you might just want peace and calm in your life, yet you have to start somewhere to change what has gone wrong. You need to become stronger not weaker. You need to bend with life like the blade of grass. There is no need to become hard and heartless, this will just bring you more sorrow.