Failure isn’t a nice word. Some people fear it so much that they avoid doing anything, just so they don’t have to experience it. All of us, at one time or another, has failed at something – we are only human, after all – but, I’ll bet that you still remember every occasion where you failed in the past, and it’s likely that this has stopped you from trying again in the future.
Failing is a horrible feeling. If you didn’t receive criticism from somebody else, the chances are you gave yourself a hard time, especially if it was a project close to your heart. What you need to remember is that failure is just a means to success.
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The problem with many people is they would rather listen to the noise of the world, what their friends or peers think rather than listen to their own needs. Many people can often be put off going for a job, or a new pursuit, just because they worry about what others will think. You could be interested in spirituality or Religion, but fear being ridiculed, just because you have entertained the thought of visiting a church or temple.
I know many people like this, I was one myself in my younger days, too busy making fun of everything to have the time to take anything too serious.
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We have all made a mistake sometime in our life, some of us have made more than our fair share. Yet if you never made a mistake you would never learn anything. You would go on in your own little world thinking that everything was perfect and having no real idea how things really work. As a child you may have had a bicycle, if the bike never had a puncture or the chain never came off, you would happily keep peddling around the streets, not really understanding how you managed to get from A to B. But when the bike broke down, you would of had to get onto your hands and knees, so as to put the chain back on, or you would of had to take the wheel off so you could repair a puncture. By doing this, little by little you became to understand your bike.
Life is just the same, you do not begin to reflect on it, until things start going wrong. You have no need to question your actions if things are going well, you are too busy having fun. But as soon as the metaphoric wheels fall off from beneath you, it becomes inevitable that you will question why.
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At some point in our lives, it is highly likely that we will experience a period of extreme upheaval. When nothing seems to go right, or as planned. Unexpected events occur for which we are totally unprepared. Indeed, it can seem at these times, as if the very fabric of our lives is being torn apart or thrown upside down. Particularly, when experiencing traumatic life events; such as financial hardship, bereavement, divorce, redundancy or a potentially life threatening illness.
As Individuals, we all cope with difficult situations differently. Often no one knows how they will react to stress and adversity, until something happens or goes wrong to test them. One of the most important things to do, is to not be afraid to reach out and ask for help. But, you would be surprised how difficult this can be for many people. This can be for a variety of reasons. But primarily I believe it is a matter of pride and ego. Particularly for those who find it very difficult to admit to others, that they are unable to cope. For they believe to do so, would be an admission of weakness and failure.
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I do not believe that there is a single person living, who can claim, that in their whole life they have never made a mistake. Indeed, most people will tell you, that it has been through their mistakes, that they have learned the most valuable life lessons. I believe the real tragedy is when people do not recognise their mistakes and continue to keep repeating them, and so embarks on a neverending cycle of behaviour, that does not help them to move forward and improve their lives.
Having said this, I do not want to diminish the impact that making mistakes, errors of judgement, can have on peoples lives. There is no doubt, that the affects of our actions can carry with them, the most terrible of consequences. The business man, who having made a poor judgement call, or took one risk to many; knows the bitter taste of bankruptcy. The husband or wife who felt taken for granted and in one mad moment, throws away many years of happy marriage; friends for many years, betray a confidence one too many times, knows the cold reality of being ostracized. The driver behind the wheel, who in a moment of inattention and carelessness, causes an accident that changes his life and the lives of others forever.
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You do not have to learn through pain you can learn another way. The fool walks through the fire not knowing that it will scold and burn his body.
Whereas the wise man watches from a distance, he studies the flames from the safety of his vantage point, he watches every man that is foolish enough to walk through the fire.
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