As human beings we are capable of great depth of feeling. When we trust, we do it implicitly. When we love, we do so wholeheartedly. The paradox is, that this quality we have is at the same time, one of our greatest strengths and also our biggest weakness. For never are we so vulnerable and exposed as we are in that moment. There is no greater betrayal then that of trust. Whether it be in our personal relationships, or in our dealings with people in general. The repercussions can be endless and its affects felt long after the deed has been done. Losing faith in other people can be hard, but even worse is when individuals lose faith in themselves. Often they will blame themselves, for not seeing what was happening, or of being too trusting.
People who were once open and trusting, become the complete opposite. Fearful of forming new relationships. Distant with new people, keeping them at arms length. Afraid of starting new enterprises and less willing to take creative risks. When we lose our faith in people and become distrustful. We erect barriers around ourselves, thinking that this is the only way to stay safe and free from pain. But this can be a very lonely world to live in and I think it is important to remember, that for a long time, we lived, loved and had great friendships and relationships, where trust was not an issue. That we should not let one or two bad experiences, change who we are and our view of life. The fact is, not everyone we meet is going to hurt or lie to us.
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There can be many reasons for why someone might become unwell. But by far, one of the biggest contributory factors to this, is a weakened Immune System, due to a prolonged exposure to stress. As many of us know, stress can leave you feeling extremely tired and run down. In this state, you are more likely to catch any cold or virus that is going around. Scientists believe, that it is for this reason, people who suffer traumatic events, such as sudden redundancy, bereavement; relationships issues such as infidelity, separation and divorce are more at risk from conditions such as heart disease and depression.
When under stress, cells of the immune system are unable to respond to hormonal control, and consequently, produce levels of inflammation that promote disease. Because inflammation plays a role in many diseases such as cardiovascular, asthma and autoimmune disorders, this model suggests why stress impacts them as well. Knowing this is important, it can be very helpful for identifying which diseases may be influenced by stress and how to go about preventing disease in chronically stressed people. There are also many other ways that stress can make us ill.
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Dealing with the death of a loved one is by far one of the hardest things you will ever have to live with. Losing a parent, spouse, sibling or even children can be devastatingly painful. Many of us understand that dying in itself is a natural part of life, yet we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, which sometimes lead to bouts of sadness or depression. With time, the intense feeling of sadness typically diminishes. However, the important thing to note is that grieving is an important process in order to overcome your loss. You can start by focusing on the wonderful experiences you had with your loved one.
Everyone reacts differently when it comes to coping with the death of a loved one. Some prefer support groups while others chose to seek out metaphysical avenues such as physics and or mediums to try and connect with their loved ones on the other side. The good thing is that you have many options to help you through the death and dying stages. It may take quite a few months or even years to come to terms with losing a loved one. There is no “standard” time for someone to grieve. Don’t expect to pass through the phases quickly, it takes time especially if you had a difficult relationship with the deceased.
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The word enemy, conjures up a picture in the mind; of an adversary, protagonist or foe who means to do us harm. Or, it is someone to whom we hold feelings of great dislike and animosity towards. When someone thinks about what the word ‘enemy’ means to them; most people would associate it with another person or persons, in their environment. Someone exterior to themselves. Just for a moment, I would like you to think about the enemy within!
What, or who is the enemy within I hear you cry! I believe, that the enemy within is that small persistent, insidious voice that fills your head all day long with thoughts of self doubt; the one who tells you that you are not good enough, pretty enough, clever enough to succeed in your goals and aspirations. The enemy within, is ‘that’ inner voice, people listen to, which causes them to self sabotage themselves before they have even begun. Be it in their personal relationships, work environment or desire to self improve through further education or going for that job promotion at work. Excessive self-criticism tends to backfire, because it leads us to focus on our so-called failures instead of the small ways that we could have improved.
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You must let go of anger, for it serves you no good. It is impossible to find happiness while you are led by uncontrollable urges, you will be led astray. Emotions can often cloud the mind and leave you feeling lost, you hit out in the only way you know, attempting to gain control, but this just starts a vicious cycle of hatred towards that which displeases you.
You cannot win while you are being controlled by your emotions, they are like the waves in the sea, sometimes calm, yet it only takes a gust of wind, or a change of circumstances, to make the sea rough and your life chaotic. You must learn to ride the ups and downs of life, just as you learned to ride your first bicycle. At first you fell off your bike a few times, until you learned to find balance, you must do just the same, you need to find balance, so that your emotions do not topple you over.
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Fear is what we feel when facing danger and the fear reaction is a natural primitive response. Invaluable to our ancestors whose lives were very different to ours. Life for them was a daily struggle to survive. The most basic response to fear is the ‘fight or flight’ reflex. Which allowed us to outrun preditors in a hostile world. Modern man does not have to deal with sabre toothed tigers or marauding rival tribes. What we do have to face is a world in which we are often put under a tremendous amount of mental and emotional pressure.
Stress, has been called the scourge of modern society; And is responsible for millions of people every year being off work. Fear can take many forms. There is a normal fear which causes us to avoid dangerous situations, which is healthy. There are phobia’s where someone may have a severe fear reaction, to what might seem to the majority of us to be a normal part of every day life. This kind of fear can be very debilitating.
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