Staying positive in the face of adversity can be very difficult and extremely daunting for most people. But it need not be. Particularly if you can learn to cultivate a positive attitude within yourself. How individuals deal with problems in life or cope with obstacles, very much depends on their personality. People tend to fall into two categories: Those who see life as a constant battle; where everything that can go wrong will. They believe that they are always the victim of someone elses malice, and unwilling to accept responsibility for their actions or that they might have played a part in the problems they are experiencing. Or, someone who accepts and understands that their life will go through ups and downs; And that it happens to everyone. They believe that the difficulties they face are part of the growing up process, a life lesson, that is a challenge to be met and overcome. And by doing so, they will grow stronger and wiser as individuals.
Whichever category you fall into. There is no doubt, that the roots of your attitudes and beliefs about life, that make up your personality, will almost always lie in early life. We are heavily influenced by those experiences in our formative years; and the people who had a hand in how our characters developed.
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We all want to be happy. But if you were to ask people individually, what brought them happiness. Their answers would all probably differ. As happiness is very much a subjective definition. In as much as, what would be considered very important to one persons sense of well being and inner contentment. Might not be judged as, so important to someone elses. I believe the criteria we use for happiness, comes from our own personal beliefs, priorities and circumstances.
I also believe that some people find happiness elusive. Not necessarily because they have unhappy or difficult lives. But simply because they are easily dissatisfied, becoming bored with what they have; And are constantly looking for fresh stimulation. Or that they believe, other people have it ‘so much better’ then they do. While I do believe that it is important to constantly challenge ourselves.
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Just as the seasons change so must you, as each new year passes, you must shed the old so as to allow new growth to come through. The tree sheds its leaves in winter, so it can be replenished with new growth, the same principle applies to the human world, friendships, jobs, relationships and a multitude of connections will cease or change continually into another form. Life like a stream should never be stagnant, it should be ever flowing and ever evolving into something new and re-vitalising.
A fresh start is a fresh chance to make your world beautiful, you must not see change as a hindrance, you may have lost your job or fell out with a loved one, but that does not mean the end of the world. It means the beginning of a new world, and why should this new world be any worse than what has gone before. Stop being the pessimist, stop expecting things to get worse, you only fulfil your own prophecy with this way of thinking. The world around you will not change for the better until you do.
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We all have the ability to dream imaginatively and vividly, and there are many ways in which we can encourage our dream lives to blossom. We can experience many different types of dreams, which can provide us with great insight and guidance in respect of our daily lives. Many individuals experience lucid dream states; which means that when they are dreaming, they are consciously aware that they are dreaming; and can potentially influence and guide the direction of their dreams. This can be very helpful, particularly in situations where someone is having an anxiety dream; Because it gives the dreamer the opportunity to face and work through their fears. But, by far the most powerful of dream techniques, is the one in which we are able to ‘incubate’ a dream.
What is incubating a dream:
Dream incubation is a practiced technique of learning to “plant a seed” in the mind, in order for a specific dream topic to occur. By far the most common reason for doing this is problem solving. For example: a person might go to bed repeating to themselves that they will dream about a presentation they have coming up, and want to feel more confident about it.
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In a world where there is so much upheaval and uncertainty. One could hardly blame people for wanting things to stay the same. Finding comfort and security in the routines they have established for themselves. Particularly if in the past life has been particularly turbulent and stressful. But, can this tendency to want to play things safe, stifle creativity and growth? Is there a fine line to walk, between creating a peaceful life for ourselves to becoming stuck in a rut where we are so fearful of trying something new that we stagnate and become dissatisfied with life?
As human beings, I believe we actually thrive and flourish when faced with and challenged by new experiences. That it is only when we encounter something new do we have the opportunity to add to the skills that we already have; and to challenge long held beliefs and thoughts about the world around us. It is only when we move out of our comfort zones, do we even begin to touch on what we are capable of being and doing.
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The mind is a very powerful thing. It is made up of two parts: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is the part you know you are using. When you are calculating a sum or talking to a friend, you are fully aware of what you are doing. The subconscious mind is the part that is responsible for our intuition, our dreams and where we store all of our long-term memories.
The subconscious mind is more powerful than you might think. It contains, not only memories, but negative or limiting beliefs that you’ve picked up during childhood. These limiting beliefs are things that you believe about certain things or situations that can have a negative effect on your life, without you being consciously aware of them. The strongest limiting beliefs were imprinted on your subconscious when you were just a small child. You wouldn’t have even been aware of it, at the time. These beliefs came from authority figures such as parents or teachers. You may have heard these people say things and, because you trusted these people, you believed these things. One example is a parent constantly telling you that ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’. You may think this is a harmless phrase that doesn’t mean anything; however, if you were constantly told this as a child, it could be the reason you have no money now.
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